originally posted on Thursday, November 15, 2012
One of Webster’s definitions of strategy is the following:
“: an adaptation or complex of adaptations (as of behavior, metabolism, or structure) that serves or appears to serve an important function in achieving evolutionary success”
Author Melody Beattie says this about gratitude:
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
We can choose to adapt/change our behaviors, an action taking choice, a strategic choice, to achieve the emotion of gratitude.
How can we look differently upon various experiences in our lives?
What is it about the painful, shame filled times we have all experienced that we can look back upon and notice how those experiences have allowed us to have a deeper understanding of ourselves and, sometimes, others? Do we grant ourselves the honor of a sense of gratitude for our learning?
How about the really joyful experiences? Do we allow ourselves to fully appreciate the depth of good feelings or do we push those feelings aside, quickly, lest we remain unprepared/exposed for the next sad event that might occur?
What about the simple, everyday joys? Do we allow ourselves gratitude for a day filled with good health, absence of pain, clean clothes, enough food, the smile of a stranger, the silly joke of a family member?
Our lives happen. We do our best to plan for certain outcomes. The outcomes happen or don’t happen. Either way, we can choose to find what we are grateful for about the experience, the day, the moment.
We can employ strategy to embrace gratitude. It’s big and bold and courageous and more difficult than we ever thought.
One of my life’s missions is to strive to maximize my mind’s evolution, in other words, to make the greatest effort to achieve who I am capable of becoming. I believe gratitude is a key to this mission.
Does that thought, or something similar, resonate with you?
A professional coach’s training in asking powerful questions assists the client in uncovering how to move forward toward her/his most important goals/desires.
A coach will hold you accountable for your goal to achieve gratitude in aspects of your life that you desire to ‘see’ through a different lens, a gratitude lens.
I’ve heard coaching referred to as a ‘soft skill’. Talk to anyone who has worked with a coach. I don’t think ‘soft’ would be a frequently used term!
Hard core is the word that most comes to my mind
……and I am so grateful.